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I Will Love You Everywhere Always

June 23rd, 2011

Tom, losing a parent is hard for anyone…

But, think of how much more tragic and painful it must be for very young children who lose their parents… For children, parents are a security blanket, loving guides who interpret and help navigate the often confusing and less-than-friendly world…

Three years ago, 35 year-old Maleikka Hardy Williams realized her own children would likely face that daunting challenge… Williams –a leadership development professional, a former University of North Carolina Homecoming Queen, and a dedicated wife and mother of two young daughters– had been diagnosed with breast cancer

She knew she was fighting for her life… but more significant than facing her own possible death was her concern for her little girls…

Williams agonized over the fact that she might not be there to hold their hands, tuck them into bed, hug them, and guide them into adulthood… She wanted her children to be okay, as any mother would…

Close friend, Renee Alexander-Craft–a poet, author and professor at UNC–watched Williams and her family battle with her illness… Williams and Alexander-Craft were longtime friends and schoolmates who were similar in many ways – similar hometowns, ages, colleges, successes and friendships…

But tragically, on April 14, 2008, these parallels ended as Maleikka Hardy Williams died of cancer at the young age of 35…

Her friend Alexander-Craft suffered a sense of profound loss… She spent sleepless nights wondering how William’s children would cope without their beloved mother…

Motivated by this, and by her childhood memories of losing her own grandmother, Alexander-Craft put her energies into developing a book for children dealing with loss and grief…

I WILL LOVE YOU EVERYWHERE ALWAYS is intended as a comforting reminder that the ones we love never truly leave us, and as a means to help children face their feelings and fears surrounding death…

It’s a book about the everyday places and events we can look to feel the enduring presence of the loved ones that have passed on, or as the author so eloquently puts it, in a sibling’s smile, the smell of Sunday pancakes, or in the taste of snow cream…”

Alexander-Craft has joined with illustrator Cosmo Whyte to launch a campaign around the book …

The goal is to raise an initial $6000 to go toward the final development, publishing, promotion and distribution of I WILL LOVE YOU EVERYWHERE ALWAYS… about half of this has been raised so far…

Essential to the effort is the fact that the funds will allow the book to be made available to a variety of caregivers–schools, hospitals, hospice, and other organizations offering support services to those dealing with terminal illness– as an additional resource to guide children through the process of loss and healing…

For those of you who would like to offer your support to the campaign, or find out more about the book’s upcoming availability, there is a site devoted to such campaigns called indiegogo.com

You can go there, and in the search engine just type in the words “Love Always” and the campaign will come up… OR you can go to Facebook and type in “I Will Love You Everywhere Always” for more info…

I’ll leave you with the words of the author, a poignant reminder that our loved ones never really leave us:

“I’ll hug you every time the wind blows, I’ll kiss your eyelids every time your eyes close…

…when you dance or sing or speak onstage, and bow to look your daddy’s way,

I’ll be the so-big smile on his mouth, I’ll be your Granny’s laughter and your best friend’s cheers and shouts;

Oh, baby, what I am trying to say

is that I will never leave you, I will love you everywhere…always.”

Until Next Time, this is Stephanie in Love and Hope.

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Black Relations

August 19th, 2010

Good Morning TJMS Family.

Well folks, we’re coming up on Black family reunion time.  There’ll be a lot of families getting together to celebrate reunions…

This is all good, but we have to face the sad fact that when it comes to one of the most important foundations of family life – marriage – the numbers aren’t looking too promising.

The 2009 census showed that 42 percent of black adults reaching their 40s had never married as compared to 23.6 percent of whites… It also showed that African Americans divorce more and have more children out of wedlock…

Now, of course, there are a number of complex reasons behind these stats: the legacy of slavery, black male incarceration, high unemployment, and the list goes on….

But I want to talk about something that is often overlooked when it comes to relationships and marriage…

And that is the individual… yep, you heard me right, even though the idea of the individual seems to contradict the idea of marriage and family…

It doesn’t … I’d argue it could even be one of the most important elements in a relationship…

You see, in marriage we assume important roles… that of wife, husband, mother, father, provider…

But, even with these assumed roles, each of us is still an individual who deserves to enjoy life, set and accomplish goals, and fulfill our dreams…

Think about it: How many times have you heard of marriages or relationships failing because one person feels ‘stifled’ by the other, or are forced to put their goals or dreams “on the shelf” because of the roles they now play…?

My point is this: healthy individuals help produce healthy relationships; healthy relationships produce healthy marriages; and healthy marriages produce healthy families…

If we want to have strong relationships, we have to work on ourselves and become the best individuals we can be… Then we can fully appreciate and more clearly recognize other healthy individuals…

And even if we are already married or in a relationship, we need to spend each day growing spiritually and engaging life in ways that make us happy…

Or, to put it another way, if we want good, solid relationships, both individuals need to be happy and fulfilled…

A wedding should not be the end of one’s growth; it represents a new opportunity for our growth within a committed and loving relationship where both people are growing, learning and maturing…

For as they say, when it comes to relationships, “We can grow together, or grow apart.”

Until Next Time, this is Stephanie in Love and Hope and this is TJMS at its Best.

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